If you are only starting to consider going to couples therapy, DO IT NOW. Waiting too long to seek help is a common mistake that many couples make, often resulting on being too late to repair your relationship.
Why do we get hurt by the people that we love the most? Why do we get into fights that seem meaningless and repetitive? How can we communicate with our partner in meaningful and productive ways? Can we really get back what we once had? How can we get closer and more intimate with each other?
There are answers to these questions, but unfortunately it’s not a recipe. The answers are different for every couple. When we partner with someone, we create a chemistry that is unlike any other couple, and when we enter a high emotional state it is hard to think clearly and objectively. Each couple creates their own dance, and like any dance, it can be fun or it can be stressful.
What I offer as a therapist is guidance in the exploration of your journey, helping navigate the tricky path toward a deeper connection that many couples seek, shifting from the recurring battles that serve as roadblocks to better understand what each partner truly wants and needs.
The approach I use for most of my work with couples is EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy). I’ve received training from some of the current world leaders in marriage therapy, including Dr. Sue Johnson, Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Terry Real. I recommend you reading some of their books, including “Hold Me Tight”, “7 Principles to Make Marriage Work” and “The New Rules of Marriage” respectively.
I recommend you to seek help while you still have energy to spend in changing what’s not working on your relationship, instead of spending the last bit of energy in meaningless fights and disconnection. Give your partner and yourself the opportunity to have an intimate, close and trusting relationship, if you think it’s worth it.
*Note: If you plan using medical insurance for this service, please check my Insurance page for more information.